Five Ways to Win the Hearts of Your Children

Expecting obedience while avoiding resentment and bitterness.

It’s easy to get your children to conform to your standard. While they are living under your roof, it’s easy to get them to follow your will. At least, if you are decent at discipline and are consistent. You are bigger than they are. They depend on you for almost everything.

Conforming externally, where they appear to obey willingly, comes easily for children. But you don’t want them to conform externally.

If they are only conforming externally, then as soon as they leave the house, as soon as they get a little bit of freedom, they will throw off the shackles you placed upon them.

You want your children to love and respect you and, in turn, love and respect the standard that you taught them to live by. You must win their hearts.

But how?

First, let’s go over the two ditches your children can fall into if they are in the habit of externally conforming.