What about if they’re over 6 and you just started spanking and you don’t want them to become shut down and have no spirit? It makes him just scream and freak out and sometimes he fights back 🥴 is it just consistency? Also sometimes he freaks out in the car and scream cries and even if we smack him behind us he will not stop. He’ll scream cry for 20 minutes over not wanting to go somewhere and then my husband and I are so drained and mad after he finally “calms down”.
I would try some radical physical affection. The screamer and rager is asking for real, loving attention. Hug him for as long as he wants. Let him sit in your lap for as long as he wants. If he fights you, hold him tighter until he calms down. I would recommend both you and the father do this as often as you can.
Make sure the only attention he gets is not when he is bad. Overwhelm him with love.
Still keep up the spankings, of course. But there should be far more physical affection.
Take this with a grain of salt, because I don't know you or the child or the full situation. But "more love" is almost always a safe bet.
Wow. such a hope giving article
This is… interesting. My first reaction was to definitely not agree, but then, the note about "gentle parenting", hrmm… Hrmm…
What about if they’re over 6 and you just started spanking and you don’t want them to become shut down and have no spirit? It makes him just scream and freak out and sometimes he fights back 🥴 is it just consistency? Also sometimes he freaks out in the car and scream cries and even if we smack him behind us he will not stop. He’ll scream cry for 20 minutes over not wanting to go somewhere and then my husband and I are so drained and mad after he finally “calms down”.
I would try some radical physical affection. The screamer and rager is asking for real, loving attention. Hug him for as long as he wants. Let him sit in your lap for as long as he wants. If he fights you, hold him tighter until he calms down. I would recommend both you and the father do this as often as you can.
Make sure the only attention he gets is not when he is bad. Overwhelm him with love.
Still keep up the spankings, of course. But there should be far more physical affection.
Take this with a grain of salt, because I don't know you or the child or the full situation. But "more love" is almost always a safe bet.